How can we have juicy, playful, spiritually attuned sex, while maintaining our vulnerability and presence in our bodies?

 When we relate from a place of embodiment, we expand into the intrinsic part of our being that integrates mind-body-spirit connection. From this place of integration, we have the opportunity to make ourselves known to one another at the most intimate level.

 In other words, embodiment is vulnerable. And being vulnerable is intimate. And intimacy is layered within the complexity of our personal and cultural lived experiences.

 We live in a cultural structure where vulnerability doesn’t necessarily equate to a sexy time. Mariam Webster defines vulnerability as, “capable of being physically attacked or emotionally wounded, open to attack or damage.”

 Not exactly a sexy set up for encouraging vulnerability.

 As often reflected in images of pornography, intimacy in our sex is significantly lacking. We have learned to hide and even shutdown our vulnerability in fear of: being exposed, fear of rejection, self-consciousness, fear of abandonment, trauma, and the list of these bodily felt fears goes on.

 Brene Brown defines vulnerability as, “uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. The birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity.”

So, how can we surrender to the mystery of uncertainty?

 When we feel safe to unfurl and open, beginning with ourselves, we peel back the covers we’ve been hiding under that reveals our naked truth, that reveals our most intimate needs, fantasies, and desires. This is saying yes and opening to the pleasure we desire and that is always available to us.